Seed and Fruit

   

 As the seed is so the fruit will be. As the action is so the result will be. In the same soil a farmer plants two seeds: one a seed of sugar cane the other a seed of a neem tree, a tropical tree which is very bitter. Two seeds in the same earth receiving the same sunshine, the same water, the same air. Nature gives the same nourishment to both. Two tiny plants emerge and start growing. And what has happened to the neem tree? It has developed bitterness in every fibre, while the sugar cane has developed sweetness. Why is nature so cruel to one and so kind to the other?

             No, no nature is neither kind nor cruel. It works according to fixed laws. Nature only helps the quality of the seed to manifest. As the seed is so the fruit will be. So the farmer goes to the neem tree, bows down three times, offers flowers, candles and incense, fruits and sweets and then he starts praying ” Oh neem god, please give me sweet mangoes, I want sweet mangoes!” Poor neem god he cannot give them, he has no power to do so. If someone wants sweet mangoes, he should plant the seed of a mango tree, then he need not beg for help from anyone. The fruit that he will be given will be nothing but sweet mangoes. Our difficulty is that we remain unaware while planting seeds. We keep planting seeds of neem but when the time comes for fruit we are suddenly alert, we want sweet mangoes and we keep crying and praying for mangoes. This doesn’t work. As the seed is, so the fruit will be. 

   
 
What seeds are you planting?  The seeds worth sowing are  Trust, Focus, Acceptance, Patience, Persisitence, Awareness & Equanimity.
 
Too often I see good golfers plant seeds of Doubt, Perfectionism, Frustration, Fear & Expectation. 
 
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January time to ask ???

Well 2012 is very nearly here so maybe it is a good time to think about what changes are necessary for you to play your best golf when it matters next year.

A big part of Performance Coaching is asking golfers to raise awareness. More awareness leads to better performance. With that in mind, answer the following questions and write down your answers. Then act on them! 

Coaching Questions

     

What did you achieve in your golf in 2011?

What would you have liked to have done differently and why?

What have you learnt from your experiences?

 

What do you want MORE of in your game next year and why?

 

What do you want LESS of in your game next year and why?

What do you need to do to make things happen so that you are successful?

Awareness and Action

Like a blindfolded man who has never learned to drive, sitting behind the wheel of a speeding car on a busy road. He is unlikely to reach his destination without mishap. He may think that he is driving the car, but actually the car is driving him. If he wants to avoid an accident, let alone arrive at his goal, he should remove the blindfold, learn how to operate the vehicle, and steer it out of danger as quickly as possible. Similarly, we must become aware of what we do and then learn to perform actions that will lead us where we really wish to go.

Common sense will tell you that for things to change you would be wise to do something different. Working with me as your Coach for a season is more affordable than you think and may well change the way you practice and play the game, for the better.

 Performance Coaching   

“I came to see Jon to hopefully get a better understanding of why I lost concentration and confidence on the golf course, I left with a completely new way of approaching the way I practice and play.

Jon’s methods do not involve lots of goals and structure and do’s and dont’s and motivational thoughts he simply gets you to a place of freedom and concentration that allows you to just feel at ease. He lets you discover the answers for yourself. As I hit balls on the range I truely felt like it was the best I had ever hit the ball in a practice session, just by letting go of all the swing thought and technical positions I found a swing that felt effortless and produced the shots I wanted to play.

I would highly recommend Jon to anyone looking for a new approach to performance coaching through learning how to let go and let that great swing find you. Instead of endless searching by hitting millions of balls, today was a revelation in the way I think and approach the way I play.”

 Neil Parker, PGA Assistant Professional

  

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PGA Championship 2011

I enjoyed watching the PGA Championship last weekend and was really interested to hear Keegan Bradley’s comments before his final round. He sais that his goal for the week was too ” undereact” during each round. Not get too down about double bogeys or worse, not get to up about birdies or eagles. Staying calm was his intention. He did pretty well until that long putt at 17, when he was fist pumping! He is human afterall and with a firm intention he remained calm for the four days.
       This ties in with my understanding of high performance, you need to remain equanamous, calm like Keegan did. Dufner had a similar attitude. So does Donald, Westwood, Kaymer. Most of these guys, when playing well, remain calm. This way the mind remains balanced and focus is strong and performance is good.
Are you allowing the game to take you on a rollecoaster of emotions out on the golf course? If it helps you to perform then keep doing it but I imagine that if you really pay attention, your performance drops off.
You could set an intention to remain calm and equanamous for the next few rounds.
 After every three holes rate your calmness out of 10. 
 10 being really calm.  1 being up and down, high and low.

Find out for yourself what works best.
Alternatively, come for some coaching with me or attend the golf school to really experience what a calm mind will do for your golf game,
Sportingly yours until next time,
Jon Adler
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The Daffodil Principle

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over.” I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. “I will come next Tuesday,” I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove there.

 When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren I said, “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!” My daughter smiled calmly, “We drive in this all the time, Mother.” “Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears – and then I’m heading for home!” I assured her. “I was hoping you’d take me over to the garage to pick up my car.” “How far will we have to drive?” “Just a few blocks,” Carolyn said, “I’ll drive. I’m used to this.”

 After several minutes I had to ask, “Where are we going? This isn’t the way to the garage!” “We’re going to my garage the long way,” Carolyn smiled, “by way of the daffodils.” “Carolyn,” I said sternly, “please turn around.” “It’s all right, Mother. I promise you will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.” After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand-lettered sign “Daffodil Garden.”

 We got out of the car and each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon- yellow, salmon-pink, saffron, and butter-yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. Five acres of flowers.

 ”But who has done this?” I asked Carolyn. “It’s just one woman,” Carolyn answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home.” Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.

 On the patio we saw a poster: “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking” was the headline. The first answer was a simple one: “50,000 bulbs,” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. “Two hands, two feet, and very little brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.” There it was. The Daffodil Principle.

 For me that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than thirty-five years before, had begun-one bulb at a time-to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world. This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration: learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time often just one baby-step at a time learning to love the doing learning to use the accumulation of time When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

 ”It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five years ago and had worked away at it one bulb at a time through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!”

My daughter summed up the message of the day in her direct way. “Start now,” she said.

~Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards ~

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Fear in Golf

I hope your golf is going the way you would like. This time I am going to discuss something that I encounter with most of the golfers that I coach. I know I experience it in my game too from time to time. Fear in Golf.

Fear in Golf 

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In golf and in life we experience fear. Fear can make us so tense that we find it almost impossible to perform well.

So how do you banish fear?

Have you tried the Positive Thinking Route? I have and I can tell you that it doesn’t work because all the time that you are being positive there is still a part of you that is scared.

My advice, and you don’t have to take it, is this.

Accept your fear. Instead of trying to get rid of it, invite it in.

Observe your fear without wishing it was gone and see what happens.

Allow yourself the space to understand what lies behind the fear.

Instead of treating it like your enemy treat is as your friend.

You may well get very different results.

As I said, don’t listen to me, find out for yourself.

If you need help to put it into practice then get in touch.

Jon Adler   07850229722    jon@golfisamindgame.com

FEAR 

“Fear does not have any special power unless you empower it by

submitting to it.”  Les Brown

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”

Joseph C Campbell

 

 
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